Dinner Date #2


I travel some for work, and therefore I usually eat dinner alone when I’m out and about in the evening.

So here I am again, in Raleigh, having dinner on my own #introvertconfidence, and the conversation in the booth behind me gets interesting. I may need to start eating with earplugs in so I’m not tempted to burst out in unsolicited laughter.

Waiter: What can I get you for dinner?

Female Customer: Does the shrimp have skin on it?

Waiter: What? ( I hear the waiter’s voice in my Cousin Brian’s tone…LOL)

Waiter: Do you mean the tail?

Female Customer: No.

Waiter: Do you mean the vein?

Female Customer: No. The thing that’s attached to the shrimp at the end.

Waiter: I think you mean the tail.

Female Customer: Yes. That must be it.

Waiter: The jumbo shrimp has the tail still attached, but you can remove it before eating it.

Female Customer: Well what’s the difference in the regular shrimp versus the jumbo shrimp?

Waiter: Um…..the jumbo shrimp is bigger than the regular shrimp, and has the tail still attached.

Female Customer: If order that can it be easily separated from the rest of the vegetables?

Waiter: Yes.

Female Customer: Which do you prefer? I prefer the jumbo shrimp, but if you don’t want to remove the tail then “You” should go with the regular.

Female Customer: Does it come with a salad?

Waiter: Yes.

Female Customer: Can I get the dressing on the side? #nosurprise

#meseriouslylaughingduringallthis #whenharrymetsally #poordate #runitgetsworse

Peace & Shrimp Tails



Hearing Isn’t Receiving


I have often heard that timing is everything, or it’s all about timing. I have even heard the phrase, “timing is a bitch”. I think the bitch is actually in the receiving because we have no control over whether we receive the message, or the situation. Some people may argue that thought, but I have come to believe that timing only becomes real in the receiving. There is a time to receive, but we cannot force it.

I hear a lot of messages. I have encountered many good and bad situations, but if my mind was not ready to receive the implication then nothing was put into action.

I have confused hearing with receiving.

An example is where a Preacher shares an excellent sermon on Sunday morning. I hear it. I believe what is being said, but afterwards I do nothing to change my life as a result of what I heard. I am not compelled. Fast forward a few years later, and I hear a similar message. This time my mind and heart are truly open to receiving, and now I take charge and easily make the changes to improve my life. I had no control over when, or if, I would ever receive that message. Don’t confuse hearing with receiving.

This holds true in other situations as well, like changing jobs, or going back to school. Your family and/or co-workers have been encouraging you to go back and get your degree. All of sudden one day a friend shares with you a brochure on a local college program, and without hesitation you receive the message and register for classes.  It was time for you to receive. Your mind and heart were ready.

You cannot force people to receive. Trying to do this can lead to hours and days of heartache and frustration.When the time is right the receiving will happen. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with other people. You can want it, but you may not be ready to receive it. This makes receiving the real bitch. Know that it really is okay to be still and wait.

That Took Awhile


From last post to now was waaay too long. It was almost a year ago, but a little longer. This year has gone by quickly. Your parents tell you when you get older time will fly, and boy were they right. As you get older, you worry more. You are responsible for more. There are more places you have to be and more people you have to meet. It took awhile to get to 47. Just yesterday  I was 25. There is still a lot of life to live.

Slow down.


An Encounter with Prayer


A thought overtook me the other day. What if I looked at every person as a Prayer? I was not sure what this meant, or why it dropped on me like a rock out of the sky, but it did.

Hmmm? Every person as a Prayer?

My encounter with Prayer can be loud or quiet.

My encounter with Prayer can be long or short.

My encounter with Prayer can be with many languages.

My encounter with Prayer can be found in light or dark places.

My encounter with Prayer can be alone or in a group.

My encounter with Prayer can be loving or angry.

My encounter with Prayer can be happy or sad.

My encounter with Prayer brings with it expectations and hope.

My encounter with Prayer is giving and taking.

My encounter with Prayer brings questions and answers.

My encounter with Prayer brings vulnerability.

My encounter with Prayer brings both peace and sometimes more angst.

I cannot rush you Prayer.  I cannot ignore you.

I close my eyes and see you and know that God has set a Prayer in my path. It is up to me to decide how to treat you.

This is not the end. I am still pondering this thought, trying to get my head around it, and soak in what God wants this to mean for me. Or, what it might mean for other people. I do know that whoever reads this will have their own interpretation, which will not match mine, nor should it. Therefore, let this thought be your own and find your own meaning with it.

Peace & Frogs,


Oh the Possibilities


From my last post you know I have chosen a purposeful for me word resolution for 2015. My main word of focus, authenticity, and discovery for this year is “Maybe”. You will have to chose and discover your own word(s), but until then feel free to live vicariously through this blog.

In thinking and journaling about “maybe”, it is a more positive word than I first thought. The word “maybe” lives as both an adverb and a noun so I have a lot of opportunities with this word this year.

  • Maybe as an adverb: possibly but not certainly (Webster). I love this definition.
  • Maybe as a noun: something that is not known for certain (Webster). This definition screams discovery.

And the best part of “maybe” is the synonyms: conceivably, perhaps, mayhap, perchance, possibly.

It is conceivable that I will quite possibly have the best year of my life, lest perchance I do not stay focused and open to the shifts of life.

“Maybe” can shut a door, open a door, or leave it slightly ajar. The great thing is is that the decision is mine. In conclusion of this evening I will share this nice little quote I stumbled upon in celebration of my word “maybe”.

“Someday we will find what we are looking for. Or maybe we won’t. Maybe we will find something much greater than that.” (author not listed)

Peace & Frogs

Word up 2015


2015 Word(s) of the Year

A few years ago I came across a website which gave some great insight on starting the new year. (www.christinekane.com) Instead of deciding upon “resolutions” for the new year, which of course would fall by the wayside, how about choosing a “word”?  A word has so much power in our lives and over our lives. It is also one of the things in life that we can create, and which can change our lives and the lives of others in a split second based on how we use it.
Check out the website for all the details and guide for realizing your word. For me, I am going to use this platform to not only share how my word(s) will impact my year, but how the awareness of a word or words in general can impact a thought and/or a moment.

So far my words are: Maybe and Relationships. (no pun)

Since my decision to blog about my words through this year I have realized two more words that I like because they roll beautifully off the tongue: Delicious, and Manifesto. I will talk about those in a later post.

Let me get back to my first original word though, “maybe”, and how I chose it. I allowed 2014 to become very stressful for me. Due to some earlier relational problems and failures I purposefully immersed myself into a lot of activity just to try and make all the sadness and frustration go away. As the end of 2014 started drawing near I realized that immersing myself in more stuff only compacted the stress. So as the holidays came speeding into reality I took a step back and decided that I would not allow anymore stress into my life, and I vowed to not commit ahead of time to any activities. Being a natural introvert I tend to commit early to help someone or attend an event, only to dread that decision as it draws closer. Beginning December 1, 2014 my response to most invitations where applicable, was “maybe”. I am excited to say that that response worked so well that I knew I had to continue it in 2015. Wa-la, that is how I arrived at my first authentic word for 2015.

As for the word “relationship” that has more to do with my work responsibilities. I am in a new role where I work, and building relationships with political figures is paramount. Did I mention that I am an introvert? This will be a forced challenge in 2015, but one that I am going to try hard to fulfill, because I know it will be rewarding for many reasons. More on that as the year continues.

I hope you find your words this year and that you are careful in creating them and using them to communicate and listen to others. Good Luck!

Happy New Year (Maybe. Maybe Happy. Maybe Fantastic)

It Only Takes a Moment


I always find it interesting to observe people’s reaction to bad news, in this case the death of Actor Robin Williams. I am sure a large majority of us, more than most may think, have pondered the thought of suicide, even if only for a moment.

The comments thus far about Robin Williams’s death have been negative from some and fortunately uplifting from many. Sometimes necessary thoughts start churning in your mind and they are meant to come out so they can be free and peace can flow.

For those who have been negative and judgmental about what suicide is or is not, or how life should or should not be, my prayer is that may anyone contemplating suicide never seek solace in you as a friend. We need to be better listeners, and less advice givers. We all fall short…….

I read a quote one time that sums up how our relationships should be with one another,

“We are not put on this earth to see through people. We are put here to see people through.”

I am thankful everyday for the unconditional love that has been extended to me throughout my life. Thank you my unconditional loving family and friends. Tonight my necessary thoughts needed to escape.


[Suicide Hotline: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/  or call 1-800-273-8255]





Sorry all! I took a small detour so that I could try to get my head around a new career role. Detours can be interesting in that you are not always sure where you might end up, or what you might find. I have received more definite clarification in the fact that most things, ideas, and people, are never quite what they seem. I have also learned that if you are not in a leadership role you are more isolated and sheltered than what you think. I really did think I new what my predecessor was doing all those years. Really I did! I didn’t!!! It was only a glimmer.

Finding anyone person that you can truly trust and is a true confidant has also required a detour. However, one bonus of being an introvert is that the fact its lonely at the top is actually appreciated. 🙂

The moral of this random thought is that:

  • Detours should be expected
  • Look for the signs
  • The detour will not always be shorter so appreciate scenery
  • Prepare for Plan B if the detour takes you somewhere different from what you thought
  • You basically never really know where the next turn may take you


Peace & Frogs





Everything we need to know we can find out by searching the Internet.



It does crack me up that when you are having a conversation with some one, particularly one that involves some level of debate, if you question the other party far enough in how they came to their choice of reason, most often they say they read it on the internet. I was talking to one of my friends the other day about some childhood memories of riding the school bus, when, it suddenly occurred to me that prior to the internet, or any thoughts thereof, we had the school bus.

Riding the school bus was like “living” the internet! OMG! We were the Internet!

Whatever crazy, off-the-wall question you had, or inquisition into anything remotely to do with sex, drugs or rock-n-roll you could get the answer on the school bus. The other point of how riding the school bus is like the internet, is that even if you did not want to know something, it was going to be shoved in front of your face regardless.

You know, like, Johnny’s pants being pulled down.

Or, Terry Lee eating chewing gum of the floor.

Or, Quiet Riot heavy metal music being blasted in your ear.

Or, the tongue twisting going on the back seat by the latest couple that wasn’t fighting……….and the list goes on.

I do, though, feel like I  learned some credible information on the school bus. Such as the smart girls sharing their Spanish vocabulary words. Or the latest classic literature,  and specific famous lines. I too was able to catch up on some good reading while trying to ignore the wealth of information being overshared from the back.

I was also able to determine what not to do, which has not only brought some good laughs and memories, but has also helped me appreciate the fear my parents put into me if I had participated in any googling of sorts.

So if any kids are reading this blog, know that when your parents or guardians are blocking certain Internet options for you, they are actually doing you a favor.

However, I will provide a contradiction here, and say that if you are blocked from the Internet, and you just have a burning question that want an answer to, catch a ride on the school bus. It will have the same effect.

Peace & Frogs


Economy Even Effecting the Bugs


I was driving down the interstate the other day, and passed a very small car. On the side of the driver’s side door was a sign. I assume it was a business sign, as it read, “Economy Exterminator”.  I literally laughed out loud as I thought to myself, “What does that mean exactly?” “Economy Exterminator?”.

Do they only exterminate a few rooms in your home/business/space?

Do they only exterminate a portion of the insects/critters that they see?

Do they only exterminate the body and leave the legs?

Do they dilute the exterminating mixture so it knocks out the insect/critters for a short time, while they sweep and bag them and take them elsewhere?

Either way, if the answer to any of these questions is, “Yes!”. I will pony up the extra money and go for the “We Exterminate it All” payment.

Peace & Frogs,


P.S. This one may have me perplexed and questioning for awhile, “Economy Exterminating”……… 🙂